When I first mentioned my interest in becoming a lifeskills trainer, the one of the most memorable questions posed to me was this.

“What are lifeskills?”

What are lifeskills?! I realized that I had to think really hard! Lifeskills has always been a noble idea of sorts, but its boundaries had been elusive to my understanding. Defining lifeskills and putting it into words was difficult, and the best answer I could give was amazingly vague.

And I later found out why. The definition of Lifeskills is really vague. Ask ten different people on the street and you will likely get ten different answers.

I was then given a model answer, which went something like this,

“Lifeskills is anything that helps you become better in life. It can range from financial management to self-belief to dining etiquette.”

And that itself is also amazing vague and broad. What does becoming better in life mean? It’s the kind generalization that encompasses everything but yet gives you nothing specific to work on. But before I could dive into that arena, I was asked another question.

“What does lifeskills mean to you?”

And that question simply nailed it. The definition of lifeskills does not matter at all.

Imagine this four-legged object right in front of you. You can sit on it and it even has a back support for you to lean on. It is a distance from you, and you ask a friend next to this object to carry it over.

What would you call this object? (A chair?)

But what if the object does not have a back support? What will you call it then? (A stool?)

The truth is, you can call it whatever you want (Even if you referred to it as the ‘thing’, it’s cool too). As long as you and your friend have an alignment on what that object is called, the actual definition of a chair or a stool does not even come into consideration.

So what is important really, is my definition of lifeskills. And to get everyone else interacting with me aligned with it (or reach an alignment everyone can accept).

It is all in the mind

And to me, lifeskills is all about the mind. It ranges from the image one sees himself as, to the way he reacts during dire circumstances.

But for now, my focus is to bring the success mindset to people I meet. The belief that no dream is too far-fetched as long as I can find ways to chart a path to reach that goal. The belief that the success is already in my hands, and it will manifest itself so long as I continue to remain committed. The belief that everything is an opportunity to learn, and I can choose which opportunities I want to propel me fastest to my dreams.

Perhaps it is because I am fervently on the path to my dreams, which is why I feel so in tune with the success mindset. And I hope to get as many people on board with me on my journey, so that we may realise our dreams together.